Productive disagreement depends on how people feel about each other. We spend a lot of time thinking about how to argue, and not enough on how to shape the relationship that will define how the engagement goes. It’s often said that in order to disagree well, people need to put emotions aside and think purely rationally, but this is a myth. … | Ian Leslie Continue reading Productive Disagreement Depends on How People Feel About Each Other Ian Leslie
The new kind of business hero must learn to operate without the might of the hierarchy behind them. The crutch of authority must be thrown away and replaced by their own ability to make relationships, use influence and work with others to achieve results. | Rosabeth Moss Kanter Continue reading Operating Without Hierarchy Rosabeth Moss Kanter
If I were to summarize in one sentence the single most important principle I have learned in the field of interpersonal relations, it would be this: Seek first to understand, then to be understood. | Stephen R. Covey Continue reading Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood Stephen R. Covey
A positive relationship is one in which two people listen, communicate clearly without judgment, respect, and trust each other, as well as support, encourage, and help each other on a practical and emotional level. | David Gurteen Continue reading What Is a Positive Relationship? David Gurteen
Posts where this video is embedded Actor-network Theory (ANT) Actor-Network Theory Avoid Anonymity Anonymity kills the conversation Avoiding Modern-day Colonialism Colonialism: the dominance, control, and exploitation by one group over another Bake Conversation Into All That We Do ** There are so many ways to leverage conversation Banter with Care Banter: the playful and friendly exchange of teasing remarks Biological Intelligence … Continue reading What I Learnt as International Czar David Gurteen (2005)
The more traditional forms of leadership based on static hierarchies and professional distance between leaders and followers are growing increasingly outdated and ineffective. As organizations face more complex interdependent tasks, leadership must become more personal to guarantee open, trusting communication that will make collaborative problem solving and innovation possible. AustraliaAustriaBrazilCanadaChinaCzech RepublicEgyptFranceGermanyGlobalIndiaItalyJapanMexicoNetherlandsPolandSaudia ArabiaSingaporeSpainTurkeyUAEUnited KingdomUnited States … Continue reading Humble Leadership: the Power of Relationships, Openness and Trust by Edgar H. Schein, Peter A. Schein (2018)
We’re crazy, We’re living on crazy ideas about love, about relationships, about happiness, about joy, about everything. Credit: Anthony de Mello Comment: This quote by Anthony de Mello poignantly implies that many of our conventional notions and societal narratives surrounding deeply human experiences like love, relationships, and happiness are fundamentally flawed or “crazy” ideas that … Continue reading We’re Crazy Anthony de Mello
We must establish a personal connection with each other. Connection before content. Without relatedness, no work can occur. | Peter Block Continue reading Connection Before Content – Without Relatedness, No Work Can Occur Peter Block
The Speed of Trust by Stephen M. R. Covey explores the role of trust in business, organizations, and personal relationships. The main concept of the book is that trust is the basis of successful relationships, leadership, business, and society as a whole. Covey argues that trust can provide organizations and individuals with immense competitive advantages, … Continue reading The SPEED of Trust: the One Thing That Changes Everything By Stephen M. R. Covey (2006)
Relationship and connectedness are the pre-condition for change. Every meeting, every process, every training program has to get people connected first. Otherwise, the content falls on deaf ears. So small groups are an essential building block to any future you want to create. | Peter Block Continue reading Relationship and Connectedness Are the Pre-condition for Change Peter Block
Someone once told me that the power in all relationships lies with whoever cares less, and he was right. But power isn’t happiness, and I think that maybe happiness comes from caring more about people rather than less … Credit: Connor Mead in the film Ghosts of Girlfriends Past Source: Ghosts of Girlfriends PastPosts where … Continue reading The Power in All Relationships Lies with Whoever Cares Less Connor Mead in the film Ghosts of Girlfriends Past (2009)
A relationship is a set of mutual expectations about each other’s future behavior based on past interactions with one another. We have a relationship when we can anticipate each other’s behavior to some degree. When we say we have a ‘good relationship’, this means that we feel a certain level of comfort with the other person, comfort that is based … | Edgar Schein and Peter Schein Continue reading What Is a Relationship? Edgar Schein and Peter Schein
Gurteen Knowledge Blog January 28, 2024, 20:53. I watched the film “Nowhere in Africa” on a plane trip some years ago and jotted down this quote from the movie. In the film, Max, Jettel’s father-in-law, says this to her about his son. It resonated with something I have long felt — that in a relationship, the one … Continue reading The One Who Loves More Is vulnerable
Despite current ads and slogans, the world doesn’t change one person at a time. It changes when networks of relationships form among people who share a common cause and vision of what’s possible. This is good news for those of us intent on creating a positive future. Rather than worry about critical mass, our work is to foster critical … | Meg Wheatley Continue reading The World Doesn’t Change One Person at a Time Meg Wheatley
Relationships are all there is. Everything in the universe only exists because it is in relationship to everything else. Nothing exists in isolation. We have to stop pretending we are individuals that can go it alone. | Meg Wheatley Continue reading Relationships Are All There Is Meg Wheatley
Conversational Leadership Mindset The Impact of Cognitive Biases in Conversation Close Pop-up all posts in this chapter What’s the Vibe? Please be patient as this may take up to a minute to load… Close Conversations shape how we connect, collaborate, and solve problems. Groups often struggle to focus on the right issues, approach discussions constructively, … Continue reading Three Questions for Meaningful Conversations Clarify focus, approach, and community-building in discussions
Wisdom of Crowds of Crowds What Is the Optimum Group Size for a Conversation? Close Pop-up all posts in this chapter What’s the Vibe? Please be patient as this may take up to a minute to load… Close Small group conversations are at the heart of Conversational Leadership, but there are several challenges to be … Continue reading Introduction: Small Group Conversations Small groups are an essential building block to any future you want to create
Avoiding Modern-day Colonialism Spirituality Close Pop-up all posts in this chapter What’s the Vibe? Please be patient as this may take up to a minute to load… Close Edgar and Peter Schein’s four levels of relationship: Level Minus 1: Total impersonal domination and coercion. Level 1: Transactional role and rule-based supervision, service, and all forms … Continue reading Relationships ** The way in which two or more people are connected
A community is more than just a group of people with shared interests. Many networks and organizations call themselves communities, but they often lack the deeper connections that make a real community. True communities grow over time through meaningful relationships, shared purpose, and mutual care—not through design or construction. Continue reading What Makes a Real Community? Members of a community care about each other
The Jazz of Conversations Why Face-to-face Interaction Matters ** Close Pop-up all posts in this chapter What’s the Vibe? Please be patient as this may take up to a minute to load… Close Meetings or, more generally, conversations serve two purposes. The first is obvious, and that is to fulfill their aim. The second is less … Continue reading Meetings and Conversations Serve Two Purposes There is a second purpose to any meeting which we often overlook
Make Big Talk Connect People Close Pop-up all posts in this chapter What’s the Vibe? Please be patient as this may take up to a minute to load… Close Connect more: Connect with people more broadly and more deeply. We are becoming more connected with each other and less connected with each other at the … Continue reading Connect More Connect more broadly, more deeply
Carpe Diem – Seize the Day Speak Up Close Pop-up all posts in this chapter What’s the Vibe? Please be patient as this may take up to a minute to load… Close Admit when you are wrong: We find it difficult to admit when we are wrong. Our relationships and personal development are negatively affected … Continue reading Owning Our Mistakes ** Learning how admitting we’re wrong strengthens relationships and personal growth
Flipped Teaching The Oracy Lab Close Pop-up all posts in this chapter What’s the Vibe? Please be patient as this may take up to a minute to load… Close Team alignment and communication can be challenging. Miscommunication and lack of cohesion often result in inefficiencies and missed opportunities. As a key tool of Conversational Leadership, … Continue reading The Power of Team Huddles How brief team gatherings can align, motivate, and connect
Reframing Questions Raising the Ships on the Sea Close Pop-up all posts in this chapter What’s the Vibe? Please be patient as this may take up to a minute to load… Close Trust is the force that holds our society together. It is the glue that connects us, builds communities, and is one of the … Continue reading Exploring the Multifaceted Roles of Trust in Relationships and Society Without trust our civilization would collapse
