video player Harvard Commencement speech 2013 | Oprah Winfrey Transcript This is a transcript of where she talks about the importance of having face-to-face conversations with people with whom you may disagree. Her words are a timely reminder that we can’t outsource empathy to algorithms. Real connection demands real conversation—even and especially with those we … Continue reading Oprah Winfrey Harvard Commencement Speech Oprah Winfrey (2013)
And even though this is the college where Facebook was born, my hope is that you would try to go out and have more face-to-face conversations with people you may disagree with. That you’ll have the courage to look them in the eye and hear their point of view. And help make sure that the speed and distance and anonymity of our world doesn’t cause … | Oprah Winfrey Continue reading Have More Conversations with People Whom You Disagree Oprah Winfrey
In this book, Conflicted, Ian Leslie draws essential lessons on how to disagree well from world-class experts: interrogators, hostage negotiators, divorce mediators, diplomats, and addiction counselors. It tells inspiring stories of productive disagreements, from the invention of the airplane to the success of The Rolling Stones, and combines them with fascinating insights from the science … Continue reading Conflicted: Why Arguments Are Tearing Us Apart and How They Can Bring Us Together by Ian Leslie (2021)
We don’t have a good word for engaging in a non-hostile disagreement with the shared aim of moving the participants towards a new understanding, better decision or new idea. Debate implies a competition with winners and losers. Argument comes tinged with animosity. Dialogue is too bland. Dialectic is too obscure. We talk about argument as if it is … | Ian Leslie Continue reading We Don’t Have a Good Word for Engaging in a Non-hostile Disagreement Ian Leslie
Imagine a culture where an argument is viewed as a dance, the participants are seen as performers, and the goal is to perform in a balanced and aesthetically pleasing way. In such a culture, people would view arguments differently, experience them differently, carry them out differently, and talk about them differently. But we would probably not … | George Lakoff and Mark Johnsen Continue reading Imagine a Culture Where an Argument Is Viewed as a Dance George Lakoff and Mark Johnsen
Productive disagreement depends on how people feel about each other. We spend a lot of time thinking about how to argue, and not enough on how to shape the relationship that will define how the engagement goes. It’s often said that in order to disagree well, people need to put emotions aside and think purely rationally, but this is a myth. … | Ian Leslie Continue reading Productive Disagreement Depends on How People Feel About Each Other Ian Leslie
Posts where this video is embedded Changing Minds Through Conversation The role of conversation in Derek Black’s transformation Chatbots to Analyze Conversations and Presentations Analysis of transcripts Construct Steel Positions Not Straw Ones We need to learn to argue more effectively to get at the truth Conversation Covenant Creating a psychologically safer space for difficult conversations Conversation Theory ** Gordon … Continue reading How to Disagree Productively and Find Common Ground Julia Dhar
Speak with Less Conviction Reduce Emailing and Texting ** Close Pop-up all posts in this chapter What’s the Vibe? Please be patient as this may take up to a minute to load… Close Disagree constructively: Disagreement is an inevitable part of life. Most of the time, we do it poorly. We need to learn to … Continue reading Disagree Constructively How to disagree well
Show respect: We often show disrespect for people with whom we disagree. This is damaging to the relationship and society. However, we do not need to respect someone or their ideas to show them respect. Continue reading Show Respect Failing to respect one another negatively impacts the future for all of us
Randomised Coffee Trials Speed Consulting Close Pop-up all posts in this chapter What’s the Vibe? Please be patient as this may take up to a minute to load… Close Ritual Dissent is a structured way for a group of peers to criticize proposals or ideas by subjecting them to ritualized dissent in order to improve them. … Continue reading Ritual Dissent ** A structured way for a group of peers to criticize proposals or ideas
