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Respect is a positive feeling or action shown towards someone or something considered important, valuable, or worthy of admiration. It involves treating others with dignity, honor, and consideration and valuing their worth and feelings.
Respect, also called esteem, is a positive feeling or deferential action shown towards someone or something considered important or held in high esteem or regard. It conveys a sense of admiration for good or valuable qualities. It is also the process of honoring someone by exhibiting care, concern, or consideration for their needs or feelings.
In many cultures, people are considered to be worthy of respect until they prove otherwise. Some people may earn special respect through their exemplary actions or social roles. In "honor cultures", respect is more often earned in this way then granted by default. Courtesies that show respect may include simple words and phrases like "thank you" in the West or "namaste" in the Indian subcontinent, or simple physical signs like a slight bow, a smile, direct eye contact, or a handshake. Such acts may have very different interpretations depending on the cultural context. The end goal is for all people to be treated with respect.
Credit: Wikipedia - respectAs a society, we have come to a point where people too often treat one another as objects and opportunities, rather than as fellow human beings. Respecting one another as individuals, or not doing so, seriously impacts the future for all of us. Credit: Gail Pursell Elliott Posts where this quotation is embedded Artificial and … Continue reading The Importance of Respect in Society Gail Pursell Elliott
If I were to summarize in one sentence the single most important principle I have learned in the field of interpersonal relations, it would be this: Seek first to understand, then to be understood. Credit: Stephen R. Covey Posts where this quotation is embedded Artificial and Natural Intelligence Exploring the essential difference between natural and artificial … Continue reading Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood Stephen R. Covey
Perhaps the essence of the Liberal outlook could be summed up in a new decalogue, not intended to replace the old one but only to supplement it. The Ten Commandments that, as a teacher, I should wish to promulgate, might be set forth as follows: Do not feel absolutely certain of anything. Do not think … Continue reading Bertrand Russell’s Ten Commandments for Critical Thinking Bertrand Russell
A positive relationship is one in which two people listen, communicate clearly without judgment, respect, and trust each other, as well as support, encourage, and help each other on a practical and emotional level. Credit: David Gurteen Posts where this quotation is embedded Artificial and Natural Intelligence Exploring the essential difference between natural and artificial forms … Continue reading What Is a Positive Relationship? David Gurteen
The essence of synergy is to value differences – to respect them, to build on strengths, to compensate for weaknesses. Credit: Stephen Covey Posts where this quotation is embedded Artificial and Natural Intelligence Exploring the essential difference between natural and artificial forms of intelligence Avoiding Modern-day Colonialism Colonialism: the dominance, control, and exploitation by one group over … Continue reading The Essence of Synergy Is to Value Differences Stephen Covey
Spirituality means a deep appreciation, respect, and love for the universe, the world, all life, and humanity — a sense of connectedness, awe, wonder, and curiosity — a deep understanding of being human and alive. Credit: David Gurteen Posts where this quotation is embedded Artificial and Natural Intelligence Exploring the essential difference between natural and artificial … Continue reading The Meaning of Spirituality David Gurteen
Gurteen Knowledge Blog June 27, 2023, 13:47Over 700 people receive my daily Conversational Leadership quote of the day, and nearly 3,000 subscribe to my old Gurteen.com quote of the day. Both services are free and I encourage you to register if you are interested. I frequently receive feedback from people who either dislike or disagree with … Continue reading The Best Quotations Provoke Thought and Reflection They need not be true or the author necessarily respected
Gurteen Knowledge Blog February 28, 2024, 19:38Watch this brief video, which is under 2 minutes long. It shows a young woman asking a question of Allen West (an American politician) in an aggressive manner. I wonder where she learned this confrontational style. She likely picked it up from observing professional interviewers and politicians exhibiting similar behavior. … Continue reading The Importance of Teaching Respectful Conversation A necessity for a healthy society
The “good faith” principle | Julia Galef Posts where this video is embedded Artificial and Natural Intelligence Exploring the essential difference between natural and artificial forms of intelligence Avoiding Modern-day Colonialism Colonialism: the dominance, control, and exploitation by one group over another Benjamin Franklin’s Junto Club Benjamin Franklin founded the Junto Club – a conversational society in 1727 Changing Minds … Continue reading The Good Faith Principle Julia Galef, 2017
Gurteen Knowledge Blog January 13, 2021, 11:37Over the past few years, much has been reported in the press about so-called cancel culture and deplatforming where activists deny speakers with controversial opinions access to University venues. In 2019 Cambridge University rescinded its offer of a visiting fellowship to Jordan Peterson, who has attracted controversy for his views … Continue reading Freedom of Speech in Universities It’s our duty to tolerate colleagues even when they say things that we consider foolish
Gurteen Knowledge Blog August 3, 2021, 11:07Occasionally a reader of my knowledge letter takes issue with one of my posts or quotations that reference certain other people or their ideas or even their tone. One or two readers have even stopped subscribing to my knowledge letter at the mere mention of someone’s name. Typically, they “do … Continue reading We Can Learn From Anyone There is always some signal
You can’t make someone love you. You can’t force respect. You can’t mandate care. And you can’t build community. Please be careful with talk of building community. Community is a consequence of many contextual relationships intertwining over time, more like a meadow than legos. Credit: Nora Bateson Source: TwitterPosts where this quotation is embedded Artificial and … Continue reading You Can’t Build Community Nora Bateson
Multipolar Traps or Moloch Traps Relationships ** Close Pop-up all posts in this chapter Colonialism has historically referred to the domination and control of one group or nation over another. However, the language of colonialism has recently been used to describe other forms of control and dominance. Introduction The term “colonialism” and related words, such … Continue reading Avoiding Modern-day Colonialism Colonialism: the dominance, control, and exploitation by one group over another
Attitudes Values Close Pop-up all posts in this chapter Mindsets are our mental attitudes or approaches to a particular situation or task. They are shaped by our beliefs, values, and experiences and can impact our ability to adapt to change, solve problems, and achieve goals. What are mindsets? Mindsets are the collection of mental attitudes … Continue reading What Are Mindsets? Ways of thinking, mental inclinations, dispositions, or frames of mind
Caring What Is Communityship? Close Pop-up all posts in this chapter Community is one of those soft, fuzzy words that many people do not fully understand and even find alienating. It is a word that gets used loosely, its meaning confused and distorted. So, what is meant by community? In business, we talk about communities of … Continue reading What Makes a Real Community? Members of a community care about each other
Science Curiosity The Global Information Ecosystem Close Pop-up all posts in this chapter To discredit someone means to cause them to lose people’s respect or trust. We acquire most of our knowledge by accepting the beliefs of those people or institutions we trust, so discrediting authority figures or institutions is one of the most effective, … Continue reading Discrediting People ** Cause them to lose the respect or trust of others
We All Have the Freedom to Choose If We Choose To Gossip and Lashon Hara Close Pop-up all posts in this chapter Lashon Hara is a Jewish religious term for derogatory speech about a person. Fascinatingly, in the Jewish tradition, it is considered a grave sin to speak it even if true. Note: This description … Continue reading Lashon Hara Jewish religious term for derogatory speech
Ask Questions ** Say So, If We Don’t Have an Opinion Close Pop-up all posts in this chapter Converse in good faith: Converse with the intent to be sincere, fair, open, and honest, regardless of the outcome of the interaction. Converse in good faith In human interactions, good faith is the intent to be sincere, … Continue reading Converse in Good Faith Be sincere, fair, open, and honest, regardless of the outcome
Speak with Less Conviction Reduce Emailing and Texting ** Close Pop-up all posts in this chapter Disagree constructively: Disagreement is an inevitable part of life. Most of the time, we do it poorly. We need to learn to disagree constructively. How do we go about it? A simple disagreement hierarchy provides guidance. Disagreement is an … Continue reading Disagree Constructively How to disagree well
Reduce Emailing and Texting ** Tell the Truth Close Pop-up all posts in this chapter Show respect: We often show disrespect for people with whom we disagree. This is damaging to the relationship and society. However, we do not need to respect someone or their ideas to show them respect. The Problem When people disagree … Continue reading Show Respect Failing to respect one another negatively impacts the future for all of us
Invitation and Community ** Working Together ** Close Pop-up all posts in this chapter Everyone believes they’re the good guy — no one thinks they are the bad guy. Even Al Capone felt he was misunderstood. I have spent the best years of my life giving people the lighter pleasures, helping them have a good … Continue reading Everyone Believes They’re the Good Guy The only real way to disarm your enemy is to listen to them
Engagement ** The Difference Between Responsibility and Accountability Close Pop-up all posts in this chapter It is often suggested that offering rewards is necessary to motivate people, particularly when it comes to sharing their knowledge. However, this strategy is ultimately ineffective and potentially harmful in the long run. In his book Punished by Rewards, Alfie … Continue reading Punished by Rewards Loving what you do is a more powerful motivator than any goody
Facilitator Bias ** Social Silencing Close Pop-up all posts in this chapter In many cultures, especially in Asia, the concept of “face” shapes social interactions and relationships. The fear of losing face or the need to give face can create barriers to honest communication and decision-making. Understanding these dynamics helps build trust and maintain harmony … Continue reading Losing and Giving Face The fear of losing face is a significant barrier to open conversation in many cultures
