Avoid Anonymity Anonymity kills the conversation

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Introduction: Conversational Habits

Avoid anonymity: In online discussion forums, you often have the option to post anonymously rather than in your own name. Is this a good idea or not? 

There are several ways in which we express our ideas or have discussions while hiding who we are.

Many online discussion forums allow us to post anonymously or to give a false name, and we can frequently express our opinions anonymously in surveys or interviews.

We employ these techniques for seemingly good reasons. If we are introverted or lack confidence in our beliefs; they allow us to speak up without fear of judgment or personal criticism.

And in fear of the consequences, they potentially make it possible to be more truthful by saying things that others might not wish to hear.

But anonymity has a serious downside as it encourages us:

• to be less authentic
• to avoid intimacy
• to avoid building relationships
• to lie rather than tell the truth
• to avoid confrontation
• to be nasty and vindictive (think internet trolls)

But worst of all, it allows us to avoid conversation.

I don’t want my views challenged.

I want to have my say, but I don’t want to hear what you have to say.

Anonymity is about monologue, not dialogue. Anonymity kills the conversation.

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Things Todo

• Action: Next time you post to an online discussion forum, do not post anonymously.

Resources

• Quora: How can one prevent the urge of being anonymous?

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