Public Discourse Is Like Having a Fight Deborah Tannen

Our public interactions have become more and more like having an argument with a spouse.

Conflict can’t be avoided in our public lives any more than we can avoid conflict with people we love.

One of the great strengths of our society is that we can express these conflicts openly.

But just as spouses have to learn ways of settling their differences without inflicting real damage on each other, so we, as a society, have to find constructive ways of resolving disputes and differences.

Public discourse requires making an argument for a point of view, not having an argument — as in having a fight.

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