Peter Boghossian is an American philosopher and an assistant professor of philosophy at Portland State University.
The Way Forward | Peter Boghossian (source)
Ten of Peter’s principles, strategies, and techniques that can be used to engage in impossible conversations (taken from his book How to Have Impossible Conversations) are listed below.
An impossible conversation feels futile because it takes place between people who hold radically different ideas, beliefs, morals, politics, or worldviews. It is one where people are likely to argue and even fight if no rules are governing the conservation.
- 00:09:52 Listen

- 00:12:47 Criticize constructively

- 00:14:20 Ask how do you know that

- 00:16:18 Ask the other person to place their belief on a scale

- 00:19:14 Ask a disconfirmation question

- 00:24:40 Don't say 'yes but' say 'yes and'

- 00:25:35 Build golden bridges (save face)

- 00:26:32 Don't apologize

- 00:27:32 Be sincere

- 00:29:02 Be willing to revise your beliefs and say you don't know

- 00:30:18 Summary of points

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