We assume that when people ask for advice, they want answers. Often they just want to be heard. Advice closes conversation, imposes judgement, and replaces their thinking with ours. Listening keeps the inquiry alive. Resist the urge to advise, create space for reflection, understanding, and better self-directed action instead.
- A breakthrough realization that significantly challenges and transforms our previous assumptions, beliefs, and expectations.
- A powerful catalyst that compels us to reassess our thought processes, decision-making practices, and subsequent actions.
A Change Insight offers a fresh perspective or new understanding that challenges existing assumptions or conventions. It provides a novel viewpoint that prompts us to rethink our approach or shift our thinking meaningfully. These insights often emerge from in-depth analysis, research, or diverse views, allowing us to see a problem or situation differently.
Characteristics of a Change Insight
1. Novel: Introduces a new way of seeing things that deviates from the traditional or accepted view.
2. Challenging: Questions existing assumptions, beliefs, or practices previously taken for granted.
3. Inspiring Action: Compels us to take concrete steps or make changes based on the new knowledge or perspective gained.
4. Transformative: Has the potential to disrupt the status quo and drive paradigm shifts in thinking or behavior.
5. Practical: While it may be theoretical or conceptual, it should ultimately lead to practical applications or solutions.
A Change Insight is valuable because it empowers us to break free from outdated or ineffective approaches, fostering innovation, growth, and progress. By embracing fresh perspectives, we can adapt more effectively to changing circumstances, seize new opportunities, and create a positive impact.
Credit: This concept of Change Insights has been inspired by Liam Fahey
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