Conversations and the Adjacent Possible How dialogue creates quiet shifts in what is possible

The adjacent possible shows that small steps can lead to significant changes. But human habits and fears often shrink the space we move within. When we listen and respond with openness, conversation becomes a gateway to new futures.

Change rarely happens in sudden, dramatic leaps. More often, it unfolds through small, near steps—openings that were not visible until a moment before. In biology, this gradual unfolding is captured by the concept of the adjacent possible, introduced by Stuart Kauffman. At any given moment, a system is surrounded by a set of possibilities that are close enough to be reached from where it currently is. As the system shifts, it brings new possibilities into reach, expanding what can happen next.

But this idea is not limited to molecules, ecosystems, or technological innovation. It also offers a powerful lens for understanding how we grow and change as people. Each relationship, conversation, or shared moment with another human being creates new possibilities in our lives. What we can imagine, what we can pursue, and who we can become are all shaped, often in ways we don’t immediately see, by the people we connect with.

Unlike chemical reactions, human interactions are not automatic. They involve choice. We decide whether to approach others with curiosity or caution, openness or fear. Many of us hold tightly to familiar routines and assumptions, staying close to what we already know. The unknown can seem threatening, especially when it challenges our sense of self. But if we only stay within the boundaries of the known, we limit the shape of our future.

Every interaction carries a potential we cannot fully predict. A casual conversation might reveal a new idea. A brief encounter can open a door to a career shift, a new friendship, or a change in perspective. Each small step, though it may seem minor at the time, can shift our path and expand the range of futures we can imagine.

Choosing to step into the adjacent possible of human connection requires both courage and humility: courage to risk being changed by others, and humility to admit that we do not yet know all we might become. Growth does not demand that we abandon who we are; it invites us to imagine a broader, more spacious version of ourselves.

Conversation as Co-Creation of the Adjacent Possible

Conversation is one of the most immediate and dynamic ways the adjacent possible unfolds between people. Each statement, each question, each pause doesn’t just transfer information—it creates new directions the conversation (and relationship) can move toward. Before someone speaks, many directions are theoretically possible. After they say something, a specific set of follow-ups becomes accessible. Not everything is possible at once; only what’s adjacent to what was just said becomes available.

Examples of Adjacent Possibilities in Conversation

• If someone shares a personal story, the adjacent possible might include offering empathy, asking a thoughtful question, sharing a similar story, or exploring a related idea.
• If someone poses a challenging question, the adjacent possible might include answering it directly, reframing it, or even challenging the premise behind it.

Conversation, then, is not just an exchange of words. It is a living exploration of the adjacent possible. Each participant’s contributions shape what can happen next—expanding, limiting, or shifting the space of possibility.

This dynamic explains why some conversations feel alive and evolving—participants are actively opening up new, adjacent possibilities—while others feel stuck, trapped in the same few predictable moves without venturing further.

Staying Open to Possibility

Ultimately, both human connection and conversation thrive on a willingness to step into the unknown spaces just beyond our current boundaries. Our lives are shaped less by grand, predetermined plans and more by the nearby doors we choose to open—and often, those doors are held open by the people sitting near us today.

By staying open to one another and treating each conversation as a co-creative act, we expand what is possible, not just for ourselves, but for each other.

Stay open to the small steps that appear through conversation. Choose curiosity over habit, even when the next move feels uncertain. Each time you listen deeply or speak with care, you help create new possibilities—not all at once, but moment by moment, shaping a future you cannot yet see.

Resources

• Blog Post: The Adjacent Possibility of People