Face to face Conversation is far more than just communication. When we have a Conversation, we don’t just exchange information. That’s what computers do. It’s not what people do. People filter, interpret and elaborate on what they hear. Everyone does this differently. Two people can hear the same thing and take away very different ideas. … Continue reading Conversation is more than communication * Conversation shapes our lives
I often ask people in my Knowledge Cafés whether they think we can have real conversations that are mediated in some way through technology or if conversations are only ever real conversations if they are face-to-face. Can you have a conversation by exchanging handwritten letters or through email? Or exchanging SMS messages or in an … Continue reading Real Conversation There is more to conversation than just talking or exchanging messages
The only way that someone can be of help to you is by challenging your ideas. Credit: Anthony de Mello Argument is meant to reveal the truth, not to create it. Credit: Edward De Bono Unfortunately, we are so steeped in debate, proving one’s point and challenging others, that alternative possibilities for interaction … Continue reading Debate ** Argument is meant to reveal the truth, not to create it
To be a catalyst is the ambition most appropriate for those who see the world as being in constant change, and who, without thinking that they can control it, wish to influence its direction. Credit: Theodore Zeldin Improve your conversational skills and behaviors. Learn more about dialogue. Learn more about active listening. Become a conversational … Continue reading Improve your conversational skills ** Learn to dialogue
Do we listen, to confirm what we already think or to reply? Or do we listen to discover something new? Do we enter into a conversation with a willingness to learn rather than the intent to force others to accept our views? Are we willing to learn? Are we willing to change? Are we open … Continue reading Learn to listen and to tell the truth ** Do we listen, to confirm what we already think or to reply?
The idea of the Conversation Dinner comes from the work of the historian, philosopher, and conversationalist Theodore Zeldin, founder of The Oxford Muse. The Process A Conversation Dinner or Conversation Meal seats two strangers together who have never met or know each other only a little for an interesting conversation that goes beyond small talk. A … Continue reading Conversation Dinners ** A meal and a conversation with a stranger
One potent conversational or thinking tool is Dialogue inspired by the work of the physicist David Bohm. Dialogue helps in two fundamental ways: It frees and dramatically improves interpersonal communication – fundamental for the sharing of tacit knowledge. It helps reveal to us and allows us, as individuals, to question and change our deeply held … Continue reading Dialogue ** The potential for a real revolution in culture