Speak Truth To Power To speak the truth to someone in authority in spite of the possible negative consequences

The phrase “Speak truth to power” means speaking what you believe to be true to someone in authority who might take it as a criticism or be offended and who has the power to punish you in some way. The phrase was coined by the Quakers during in the mid-1950s. It was a call for … Continue reading Speak Truth To Power To speak the truth to someone in authority in spite of the possible negative consequences

Talk to strangers The ability to talk with strangers is a critical skill

Do you recall when you were a child that your parent drilled into you never to talk to strangers? Well, you no longer need heed that advice. As an adult, the ability to talk with strangers is a critical skill.   Don’t listen to reply, listen to listen, there’s a difference. Eye contact is where all the … Continue reading Talk to strangers The ability to talk with strangers is a critical skill

Tell no lies

Everyone lies. Some big lies, some small lies. Most of the time, individual lies do not matter, they are small and inconsequential. But larger, more public, persistent lies distort our view of the world and are dangerous. Many people persistently tell little lies about the same thing, often throughout their whole lives. They tell the lies … Continue reading Tell no lies

Speak up

Engrained in many cultures, especially Asian ones, is a profound deference to authority. We are taught to respect and obey our parents, our elders, our teachers and others in authority. I have been in situations where I have felt that people would rather die than speak up. We need to create a “speak up” culture … Continue reading Speak up

Listen empathically

Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply. Credit: Stephen R. Covey, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People Further Reading Using empathic listening to collaborate by Stephen R. Covey [Status: stub] Last updated: 9th May, 2016

Engage in banter

What is banter? The playful and friendly exchange of teasing remarks. Credit: Oxford Dictionary I love gentle banter; it is a most wonderful, fun form of conversation. It is very English, but most cultures indulge in it. Not everyone “gets it” and some people easily take offense. Not everyone is good at it or enjoys … Continue reading Engage in banter

Don’t dit people

Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply. Credit: Stephen R. Covey, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People In conversation, ditting is the dubious art of sharing anecdotes while trying to trump the story of the previous person. Too often discussions fall prone to it, … Continue reading Don’t dit people

Avoid anonymity*

There are several ways in which we express our ideas or have discussions while hiding who we are. Many on-line discussion forums allow us to post anonymously or to give a false name, and we can frequently express our opinions anonymously in surveys or interviews. We employ these techniques for seemingly good reason. If we are … Continue reading Avoid anonymity*