In our modern day culture, it is almost illegal not to have an opinion on an issue regardless of whether we know anything about it or not. Confident ignorant people argue with equally confident ignorant people. We all do it. In the UK for example, how much does any one of us really know about … Continue reading I don’t have an opinion on that ** If you don’t have an opinion then say so
We often say we need to debate something – especially in the political world – when what we really need is a dialogue. But what is the difference between dialogue and debate? Dialogue is collaborative: two or more sides work together toward a common understanding while debate is oppositional: two sides oppose each other and attempt … Continue reading The difference between dialogue and debate ** In dialogue, finding common ground is the goal while in debate, winning is the goal
Meetings serve two purposes. The first is obvious, to fulfill the aim of the meeting or conversation. The second is less obvious and is usually entirely neglected. Most meetings or conversations have a pre-planned outcome. It may be to explore an issue, to make a decision or to solve a problem. But there is always … Continue reading Meetings serve two purposes There is a second purpose to any meeting which we often overlook
In 2008 Paul Graham wrote an essay on How to Disagree. [Status: stub. I plan to describe Paul Graham’s Disagreement Hierarchy and to add some material of my own.] Last updated: 4th November, 2017, 1:20 PM Continue reading How to disagree well ** Paul Graham’s Disagreement Hierarchy
Verbal self-defense, also known as verbal judo,is defined as using one’s words to prevent, de-escalate, or end an attempted assault. It is a way of using words as a way to maintain your mental and emotional safety. This kind of “conflict management” involves using posture and body language, tone of voice, and choice of words … Continue reading Verbal judo ** Using one’s words to prevent, de-escalate, or end an attempted assault.
In human interactions, good faith is the intent to be sincere, to be fair, open, and honest, regardless of the outcome of the interaction. Julia Galef explains the “good faith” principle Resources Wikipedia: Good faith [Status: stub] Last updated: 4th November, 2017, 1:20 PM Continue reading Good faith ** To be sincere, to be fair, open, and honest, regardless of the outcome
I think you may enjoy this provocative idea by Peter Block from a booklet he co-authored called Civic Engagement and the Restoration of Community (see pages 13 to 15} The shift in the world begins with a shift in our thinking. Shifting our thinking does not change the world, but it creates a condition where … Continue reading Reversing cause and effect ** The conversation creates the speakers
How would you go about solving the world’s problems? When I think about the problems of the world, I recall the game from my childhood (based on the story of Aladdin and his magic lamp) where you are told to pretend that a Genie has granted you three wishes, and you have to say for what you … Continue reading Three wishes ** If you had only one wish to help improve the world what would it be?